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The wanderings of a modern ronin.

Ben Cantrick
  Date: 2006-10-20 09:04
  Subject:   How many times can I stack up "Post-" before I write "Feminist."
  Music:Consolidated - Unity (of Opression)

Kipnis' is an exceptionally sensible voice at a time when people seem to believe that any long-standing cultural norm that can't be completely overhauled in a single generation must therefore be indelibly carved on the stone tablets handed down to Charles Darwin at the foundation of the modern world. And for all her low-key Freudianism, she knows when it's time to follow the money instead of the unconscious. During all the foofaraw about the "opt-out revolution" - those young, Ivy-League women who are now abandoning the career track to be stay-home moms - haven't you been wishing someone would say exactly this: "Somehow, as highly educated as these girls are, they don't seem to have heard about the 50 percent divorce rate! Somehow, they imagine that their husbands' incomes and loyalties come with lifetime guarantees, thus no contingency plans for self-sufficiency will prove necessary ... Somewhere Betty Freidan must be cackling..."

In the first essay, "Envy" - which is not about catfights, but rather about all the things that men have and women want - Kipnis asks us to consider the slowly closing gender gap when it comes to pay equity. If you look carefully, she points out, you'll see that "women's wages are up to 80 percent of men's because male wages are down, which evens things out. It looks as though the dirty little secret of the last 30 years is that the job market played women off against men to depress pay." While the sexes rage at each other about dating ethics and dirty socks, somebody (probably that little Monopoly guy with the top hat and cigar) has been laughing all the way to the bank.

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  User: tiger0range
  Date: 2006-10-23 22:01 (UTC)
  Subject:   If you want to see a real show, look at the gallary
You know, as a kid I hated stuff like rodeos, monster truck pulls, classic rock radio events, etc. because it all seemed too stupid. Heck, I might have even put my pinky up and called it plebian or gauche, but my parents always insisted I go and enjoy the spectacle because it allows you to connect with people you wouldn't otherwise connect with.

As I got older I twisted their words into meaning that at least watching the people who go to these things was a lot more fun than watching the events themselves (i.e. the subject line).

In any event, at least there is a healthy debate about femininity and feminism. You want to see the real ninnies, you should focus on the guys that can't get it up enough to argue about masculinity without throwing up a flak load of guy jokes and retreating under the couch to nurse their insecurities about the fact that they have a receding hairline and couldn't even come close to all the girls every other guy in the world has been date raping and making rude jokes about in their guy bastions.

Feminism invites controversy, camps, and insanely fiery rhetoric. Masculinism invites a nervous sweaty giggle and a sidelong glance to make sure nobody was watching.

So ummm... do we really know everything there is to be known about being a man?
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Ben Cantrick
  User: mackys
  Date: 2006-10-25 06:03 (UTC)
  Subject:   Re: If you want to see a real show, look at the gallary
Masculinism invites a nervous sweaty giggle and a sidelong glance to make sure nobody was watching.

Living for (or against) someone else's definition of masculinity was something I had to shake early on. I've gotten to the point where I no longer give a damn if someone finds my love of wrenching on my 300ZX to be plebian or declasse. I just enjoy it because I like working on cars, because that's me. Call me a conformist to patriarchial stereotypes if you want. Decry my hobby as consumerist if it makes you feel better. I'm done worrying about what other people think of the things I do in my spare time that harm nobody.

Maybe that makes me post-masculinist. I'd sure like to think I've managed to get past SOMETHING by now...
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