|2007-09-06 15:06 (UTC)
In principle, I agree that honesty is generally better than lying. Most of the time, the truth only hurts because you've been led to believe a lie for some period of time, so now in addition to whatever the initial problem was, you have the added embarrassment of someone (possibly everyone) else knowing something you didn't.
That said, this guy's notion of "radical honestly" sounds more selfish than anything else. There's a certain amount of give and take in every relationship. If someone's story is boring you, you can either tell them you're bored, or shut up and listen. If you say you're bored, how likely are they to want to listen to your story? Not very. If this is someone who isn't important to you, sure go ahead and tell them to piss off.* But if this person matters to you, you can make the sacrifice of a couple of minutes of your time, rather than making the other person feel like shit.
* However, in my experience, even seemingly insignificant people have a way of showing up again in significant places. Being an asshole and regaining two minutes of your time can cost a whole lot more down the line.
And maybe I'm perpetuating the culture of bullshit. Or maybe I don't think that ruining the days of everyone around me (which sooner or later is bound to bite me in the ass), is really worth the temporary feeling of "freedom."