Subject: Re: As for what it's about...
On Tue, Nov 25, 2003 at 12:58:25PM -0700, Mike Rothermel wrote:
> Potential ladies will likely hear you keep a blog,
> do a google on you and know more than you will want
> them to know about you at that time.
Well, I'd quibble with the idea that I "don't want" someone
to know stuff about me. As I said, I long ago realized that I
wear my heart on my sleeve. And further realized that I'm not
sure I want to change that. (Even assuming my changing in such
a way is possible - which I have my doubts about.)
In any event, any woman shallow and insecure enough to be scared
off by some little black letters on a web page is going to be
positively shitting her panties when she meets me in person -
and I've never liked shirking violets. One of the things I
loved about Pa-Chan was that, like me, she too had the ability
to enjoy her mania when it was upon her. A relationship between
me and someone who is so utterly inhibited and tied down
by social mores that merely seeing SOMEONE ELSE being less than
conventional makes them break out into a cold sweat would never
work. I even have a word for such people: "oversocialized". I find
them deathly boring.
So, I think the way I've set things up here works pretty
well. The LJ acts as a filter to deter those who are frightened
and intimidated by strong personalities, thus saving everyone
involved time and trouble.
And if this email exchange we're having here is more than
just hypothetical, you can forward this mail to whoever the
woman in question is. Matter of fact, why don't I post it on
I am Ben Cantrick. I still think the AnimEigo BGC dubs suck.
To foil spammers, no e-mail adress will be given here. (Spammers also suck.)
If you want to e-mail me, remove any African animals in my e-mail address.
"Sapere aude." ("Dare to think for yourself.") -Immanuel Kant
If you can't tell that (at least) half of the stuff in this LJ is humor... give up and shoot yourself in the head NOW.
If you haven't taken the time (say, about 5 minutes) to look at me and notice that I really, truly am nothing more than a boring computer geek (who has a big mouth online)... give up and shoot yourself in the head NOW.
And if you were deeply and personally offended by those last two paragraphs... that's right: GIVE UP AND SHOOT YOURSELF IN THE HEAD NOW!! (Cuz you still don't get it! ;])
"Imperious, choleric, irascible, extreme in everything, atheistic to the point of fanaticism. There you have me in a nutshell, and kill me again or take me as I am - for I shall not change."
-The Marquis De Sade
Three points to consider before dating me:
"Don't take this too seriously."
And to re-iterate once again...
What it boils down to for me is this: Mike's mail seems to be saying, "You need to keep parts of you hidden, cover up what you really are, pretend to be something else, in order to attract women." And when you get right down to it, I feel that is deeply dishonest. And so I refuse to do it. I don't care if it's what everyone else does - I'm not a lemming who jumps off the cliff just because that's where the crowd is going. I'm not going to try and put on a false face for anyone. It only bites you in the ass when they learn who you really are. I'm gonna be me from minute 1. And if that scares or intimidates someone, then I'm sorry, but that's their problem. And really, things are better this way - because trying to have a relationship with someone who's deeply scared of you is a sure-fire recipe for misery. Of which I've had enough. So no thanks.